Dating tips for 50
If he asks you if you own one (which would be a bit awkward), that’s another story, just go with the flow.But please, do not let him know that you’re a member of any senior discount card clubs – not yet anyway. If you’re a woman of faith and are seeking to remarry, be specific in your prayers.*Tip 6: Don’t talk about your late husband on the first date – unless he asks.Don’t be surprised if he suddenly falls ill after you’ve relayed a very lengthy conversation about how you have enjoyed your blissful marriage.You want the hand-holding, movie outing, and bear-hugging-type dates. You’ve tried yoga, Planet Fitness, Home Owners Association meetings and you’ve even stooped so far as to rejoining bereavement groups, just for the possibility of bumping into a potential mate – and nothing. As a widow of five years, and a widow who has had my share of dating since his death, I feel I can share a thing or two about dating so I’ve developed these ten tips for the older widow to help you along the journey of dating. Please don’t feel that you have to pretend to be someone you’re not. Yes, lying about your age may give you a better chance at getting a date. Yes, you may feel youthful, sexy and carefree but, you’re lying.You’re an empty-nester and the house is just too big (or too small) for just one person. You’ve tried blind dates, online dating, speed dating and even church. What if the relationship thrives and you both fall in love? Remember, honesty in a relationship can make or break it. Widowers may ‘get it’ long before a non-widower does.You’ve grieved long enough and cried enough tears to age yourself twenty years.
A Baltimore native, she currently resides in Charlotte with her children.
She is the author of The Lost Sheep: How I Got Over the Hump and visionary behind the book collaboration, Widowed, But Not Wounded: The Hustle & Flow of 13 Resilient Black Widowed Women (Dec 2017).
Additionally, Sabra has also contributed her writing to
If it doesn’t work, don’t be dismayed; it just wasn’t a match. He understood my cries, he understood my pain and he got me through very hard days. Maybe, maybe not, but I felt very comfortable around him. Before he died, he wanted me to remarry; he didn’t want me to live life alone without a partner. Besides, I have a future podcast with a widow who married a widower so I’m excited to hear her love story. You’re grown and you’re not getting any younger…find a dog sitter, tell your ‘still-living-at-home’ adult children to find another place to mooch off of for the evening. Instead of allowing yourself to settle, allow yourself to grow in learning new things.
We were the ‘cute couple’ to some, but I enjoyed my independence too much. I sure would …when I can come out of my selfish desires of enjoying company by myself, when I can finally admit to myself that I’m ready for a long-term relationship and more importantly, when I can stop giving excuses of running away because of the overall feelings of guilt of selecting someone other than my husband. I’ve dated many non-widowers but to be honest, I’ve never had so much fun with the only widower that was interested in me. Actually, I’ve been through it all and to be honest, the only one who made me truly smile, was-a-widower :-). Don’t settle for a man who doesn’t do anything for your mind or spirit. If he’s old enough to purchase wine, he’s an adult.
Gather your emotions and write down a list of ‘whatnots’ prior to the date. Your rekindled memories may spark certain feelings for his late wife – he may not want that. It took me a year to accept the advances from a guy who was shorter than I.